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Biblical Counseling Coalition | Trauma Asks, “Lord, have you ever forgotten about me?”


Many believers wrestle with understanding the Lord’s look after them within the aftermath of trauma. I refer to those as religion questions as a result of they’re requested by individuals of religion in regards to the Lord’s faithfulness to them. Trauma victims are inclined to ask issues like, “How did God let this occur to me?” “Does He hear me?” “See me?” “And even care about me?” It is very important notice that these religion questions are extremely private.

Scripture is crammed with religion questions. Cowl to cowl. We see trustworthy saints asking questions in regards to the Lord’s faithfulness to them. David is one such questioner. When his struggling is overwhelming, we see him asking issues like,

            Did you neglect about me? (Ps. 13:1)

            How lengthy will I endure? (Ps. 6:3)

            How lengthy will I endure this disgrace? (Ps. 4:2)

            Why do you disguise your self from me in occasions of bother? (Ps. 10:1)

David’s questions within the Psalms inform us that God invitations us to ask questions on His look after us. Since David was a person after God’s personal coronary heart (Acts 13:22), watching him offers us confidence that we will wrestle with God after we are struggling.

Cries of Misery

David pens Psalm 22 at a very harrowing time. His struggling is intense. He’s so low that he feels hopeless and deserted by God. He says he cries out for assist, however there isn’t a reply, “O my God, I cry by day, however you don’t reply, and by evening, however I discover no relaxation” (v 2). Day and evening, David calls upon the Lord however hears nothing in return. These are phrases of utter desperation and are available from a coronary heart in turmoil. David tells us his struggling has made him really feel lower than human, like a worm, as he’s scorned and despised (v.6). His group doesn’t present assist, however mocks and taunts him (v.7). God shouldn’t be answering his pleas for assist. He feels totally alone.

David’s bother is stunningly harrowing. If he ever wanted God’s assist, it’s now! Sturdy bulls (v.12) with mouths set to devour him like ravenous lions (v.13) encompass him. Canines and evildoers encircle him (v. 16). His anguish is excessive, and he cries, “I’m poured out like water, and all my bones are out of joint; my coronary heart is like wax; it’s melted inside my breast” (v.14). His misery is so excruciating that his physique and coronary heart are deforming underneath the burden of it.

Cries of Religion

One may assume that David’s expressions of misery sign that he’s having a lapse in religion, however the opening verse of the psalm suggests in any other case, “My God, my God, why have you ever forsaken me?” (v. 1). Twice he refers to God being his, indicating that he is aware of that he’s the Lord’s. Nonetheless, he feels just like the protecting presence of God has left him. He feels deserted. And but, irrespective of how alone he feels, he nonetheless possesses religion.

We see David’s religion in a number of different locations within the psalm. This proclamation is especially poignant, “But you might be holy, enthroned on the praises of Israel. In you our fathers trusted; they trusted, and also you delivered them. To you they cried and have been rescued; in you they trusted and weren’t put to disgrace” (vv. 3-5). David, although struggling, nonetheless proclaims the Lord’s previous faithfulness to His individuals. He remembers how God rescued them. However since he doesn’t expertise the Lord’s presence at this second of his want, this torments him. Why has God forsaken him now? His questions are questions on how God is referring to him. And they’re intensified exactly as a result of he is aware of the Lord’s rescuing love for His individuals. So why isn’t He serving to him?

Cries of the Trustworthy

Many trauma victims would resonate with David’s description of his expertise. Whether or not or not it’s the precise occasion that makes up the trauma or the anguish they discover themselves in afterward, the menace and concern are in every single place. They, too, really feel like their power is dried up and they’re dealing with loss of life (v. 15). And after crying out to God for assist, imploring Him to behave, victims surprise, “Why does God really feel to this point off?” David continues, although he feels deserted, to ask for assist, “O Lord, don’t be far off! O you my assist, come shortly to my assist!” (v.19). We wish trauma victims to do the identical, to proceed to deliver their pleas and questions on to the Lord even after they really feel unheard and deserted. And amazingly, God offers us these phrases in Scripture to talk our inquiries to Him!

Finally, Psalm 22 describes our struggling Savior’s plight on the cross. Jesus, in anguish on the cross, quotes verse one addressing the Lord instantly, “And in regards to the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, “Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?” that’s, “My God, my God, why have you ever forsaken me?” (Matt. 27:46). It’s a heart-rending cry. Jesus’ power is gone, His coronary heart melting, bones disjointed, mocked, and in His second of desperation, He too asks a religion query, “My God, why have you ever deserted me?” His cry served to specific horrific desolation.

Jesus’ lament permits us to talk about our ache. God needs to listen to our hearts. That is vital for victims. Despite the fact that we all know God will finally redeem our struggling, we’re permitted to really feel, expertise, and converse in regards to the utter desperation we really feel. If our sinless Lord might voice and produce His anguish to the Lord, then it isn’t sinful to take action. As a substitute, it’s crucial that after we battle to know how the Lord cares for us, we speak to Him about it. So, we should deliver Him our questions.

Cries of Misery Construct Religion

Jesus’ cry ought to reassure us to lean into religion questions when a trauma sufferer voices them. We don’t must right their theology, supply platitudes to profound struggling, or concern that religion questions will result in a disaster of religion. As a substitute, we see them as a possibility for victims to specific their anguish and produce their inquiries to a trustworthy God. We see David being met with candy assurance. After crying out to God, he can say, “For He has not despised or abhorred the affliction of the , and He has not hidden His face from him, however has heard, when he cried to Him” (v. 24). David is aware of that his anguish doesn’t put God off however quite causes God to behave and draw ever nearer to him. His and our anguish induced God to place Jesus on the cross—to place an finish to all struggling. And so we belief that simply because the Lord introduced His faithfulness to David’s thoughts, He’ll faithfully reply the questions of His individuals. We wish victims to have the ability to categorical their questions and expertise the Lord’s consolation as soon as once more. This can take time, however we’d like not rush it. We will belief that the Spirit is at work, and the Lord’s pursuit of His individuals is trustworthy (Ps. 139:7-8).

Questions for Reflection

  1. Take time to mirror on how the Lord has answered your cries of misery. Did it take extra time than you’ll have appreciated? What did that have really feel like?
  2. How has bringing the Lord your questions strengthened your religion?
  3. Are you comfy listening to individuals wrestle with the Lord’s look after them? If that’s the case, how may you encourage victims to voice their questions? If not, how may you develop in trusting and demonstrating our Lord’s faithfulness in answering their questions?